tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15820655.post7005930097318879905..comments2023-10-28T16:05:03.006+02:00Comments on Blog Ness Monster: Here we go again...Betsyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05451957392894462983noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15820655.post-8277856566805672008-12-03T10:07:00.000+01:002008-12-03T10:07:00.000+01:00We just moved here from California and the kids do...We just moved here from California and the kids do seem to be more aggressive here. In a nice CA Montessori it isn't tolerated, whereas here it seems to be acceptable. So far no huge bullying problems for us and our daughter seems to have made friends with a boy who was being too rough but it is different.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15820655.post-49711506757103007312008-11-19T12:24:00.000+01:002008-11-19T12:24:00.000+01:00that's so aweful. I never had to deal with bullie...that's so aweful. I never had to deal with bullies when growing up. I so hope that when I have children, I'll never have to deal with this. This just drives me mad and I can imagine how helpless and frustrated and angry you must feel each time. Should be become pessimistic about our society?Goofballhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11155032632164828945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15820655.post-7893246577161090242008-11-18T20:12:00.000+01:002008-11-18T20:12:00.000+01:00I think it happens everywhere, sadly. There was a...I think it happens everywhere, sadly. There was a little monster in C's class who was one of the reasons we pulled him from public schools after second grade.<BR/><BR/>I went to a cafe the other day and sat next to a table where two mothers, including the mother of the monster-child were having a chat about bad behavior of high school students (they're all in high school currently). The mom, who is a very sweet person but who has never been able to take in the behavior of her son, turned to me recognizing me finally and said, "Can you imagine, my ___ was mean to my close friend's daughter! I don't understand it - he's never been aggressive before!"<BR/><BR/>Well, I've talked to this woman years ago and I know several other parents who have... it's like she doesn't get it on any. level.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad S and B have a guardian angel, but those other boys absolutely need better parenting.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02362687820368214420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15820655.post-7266861188020504652008-11-18T11:35:00.000+01:002008-11-18T11:35:00.000+01:00Most of the bullying I've heard about around here ...Most of the bullying I've heard about around here is more emotional, but hard enough to deal with. What you've described there sounds outrageous, not to mention upsetting and worrisome. <BR/><BR/>As Jennifer says, it makes me fear for the future.annohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05102616203481686227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15820655.post-31622480845728031762008-11-17T20:54:00.000+01:002008-11-17T20:54:00.000+01:00I don't have first had experience yet, but I've he...I don't have first had experience yet, but I've heard from friends that there is quite a bullying problem in the Swiss schools. Especially what's called "mobbing" which is ganging up on one person. From what I've seen of the Swiss parents with kids the same age as mine, the attitude seems to be instead of teaching your kids not to be aggressive in the first place, to teach your kids to be able to stand up to the aggressive kids. Thus producing more aggressive kids. It's the ultimate collective action problem - if I'm the only parent teaching my kid reasoning skills, am I just making him a target??<BR/><BR/>It is something I worry about for the future.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15820655.post-77394977093430446952008-11-17T18:20:00.000+01:002008-11-17T18:20:00.000+01:00I did notify the school and the police last time t...I did notify the school and the police last time this happened (with another bully), but initially they didn't do anything about it. <BR/><BR/>It wasn't completely in vain, however, because the bully attacked another classmate shortly thereafter, and based on that and my well-documented incident they were finally able to expel him.<BR/><BR/>Today's incident happened with a couple of other troublemakers. We've had problems with them in the past, and unfortunately they live right down the street from us and take the same road home as S and B. <BR/><BR/>I spoke with both mothers (again!) and the teacher. Last time that helped temper their behavior for a little while, but within a couple of months they were back at it again. <BR/><BR/>We've put S and B into Taekwando to help teach them some self defense, but there's a big difference between doing drills in a group and putting what you know into practice. Especially for two small, sensitive softies, like my little guys. <BR/><BR/>I'm not sure what more we can do aside from just cross our fingers and hope it gets better...Betsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05451957392894462983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15820655.post-61812022675505167452008-11-17T17:57:00.000+01:002008-11-17T17:57:00.000+01:00I think it's worse here in Germany. Although this ...I think it's worse here in Germany. Although this sort of thing happened 20+ years ago in the US (my next door neighbor was chase by bullies off a roof and broke his leg) nowadays, unless you live in an urban inner city, you can prevent bullying by dealing with the schools. Bullying is generally illegal in the States and the school systems are responsible if they have adequately been put on notice. I think that may be true to a certain extent here,but you have to be unbelievably aggressive in following things up and putting them in writing. Have you notified the school and the police? In wroting? I think, to get the results you want, you may need to do this.<BR/>I'm sorry- I see some of this with my little ones, but the kita controls it better. I still see far more aggression on the playground here than I have ever seen before, and parents that justify their childrens' bullying rather than discipining the, That's where it all starts, doesn't it?G in Berlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11168975470282994167noreply@blogger.com